References: Fixed references count/list recycle bin interaction

Count and reference list would get references then attempt to load
entities, which could fail to load if in the recycle bin.
This updates the queries to effectively ignore references for items we
can't see (in recycle bin).
Added test to cover.

For #4918

app/References/ReferenceFetcher.php

@@ -41,7 +41,8 @@ class ReferenceFetcher
     {
         $baseQuery = Reference::query()
             ->where('to_type', '=', $entity->getMorphClass())
-            ->where('to_id', '=', $entity->id);
+            ->where('to_id', '=', $entity->id)
+            ->whereHas('from');
 
         return $this->permissions->restrictEntityRelationQuery(
             $baseQuery,