Fix failure to validate the result of select_common_type().

Although select_common_type() has a failure-return convention, an
apparent successful return just provides a type OID that *might* work
as a common supertype; we've not validated that the required casts
actually exist.  In the mainstream use-cases that doesn't matter,
because we'll proceed to invoke coerce_to_common_type() on each input,
which will fail appropriately if the proposed common type doesn't
actually work.  However, a few callers didn't read the (nonexistent)
fine print, and thought that if they got back a nonzero OID then the
coercions were sure to work.

This affects in particular the recently-added "anycompatible"
polymorphic types; we might think that a function/operator using
such types matches cases it really doesn't.  A likely end result
of that is unexpected "ambiguous operator" errors, as for example
in bug #17387 from James Inform.  Another, much older, case is that
the parser might try to transform an "x IN (list)" construct to
a ScalarArrayOpExpr even when the list elements don't actually have
a common supertype.

It doesn't seem desirable to add more checking to select_common_type
itself, as that'd just slow down the mainstream use-cases.  Instead,
write a separate function verify_common_type that performs the
missing checks, and add a call to that where necessary.  Likewise add
verify_common_type_from_oids to go with select_common_type_from_oids.

Back-patch to v13 where the "anycompatible" types came in.  (The
symptom complained of in bug #17387 doesn't appear till v14, but
that's just because we didn't get around to converting || to use
anycompatible till then.)  In principle the "x IN (list)" fix could
go back all the way, but I'm not currently convinced that it makes
much difference in real-world cases, so I won't bother for now.

Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/17387-5dfe54b988444963@postgresql.org

src/test/regress/sql/arrays.sql

@@ -317,6 +317,8 @@ SELECT ARRAY[[1,2],[3,4]] || ARRAY[5,6] AS "{{1,2},{3,4},{5,6}}";
 SELECT ARRAY[0,0] || ARRAY[1,1] || ARRAY[2,2] AS "{0,0,1,1,2,2}";
 SELECT 0 || ARRAY[1,2] || 3 AS "{0,1,2,3}";
 SELECT ARRAY[1.1] || ARRAY[2,3,4];
+SELECT array_agg(x) || array_agg(x) FROM (VALUES (ROW(1,2)), (ROW(3,4))) v(x);
+SELECT ROW(1,2) || array_agg(x) FROM (VALUES (ROW(3,4)), (ROW(5,6))) v(x);
 
 SELECT * FROM array_op_test WHERE i @> '{32}' ORDER BY seqno;
 SELECT * FROM array_op_test WHERE i && '{32}' ORDER BY seqno;