Add transparent block-level memory accounting

Adds accounting of memory allocated in a memory context. Compared to
various ad hoc solutions, the main advantage is that the accounting is
transparent and does not require direct control over allocations (this
matters for use cases where the allocations happen in user code, like
for example aggregate states allocated in a transition functions).

To reduce overhead, the accounting happens at the block level (not for
individual chunks) and only the context immediately owning the block is
updated. When inquiring about amount of memory allocated in a context,
we have to recursively walk all children contexts.

This "lazy" accounting works well for cases with relatively small number
of contexts in the relevant subtree and/or with infrequent inquiries.

Author: Jeff Davis
Reivewed-by: Tomas Vondra, Melanie Plageman, Soumyadeep Chakraborty
Discussion: https://www.postgresql.org/message-id/flat/027a129b8525601c6a680d27ce3a7172dab61aab.camel@j-davis.com

src/include/nodes/memnodes.h

@@ -79,6 +79,7 @@ typedef struct MemoryContextData
 	/* these two fields are placed here to minimize alignment wastage: */
 	bool		isReset;		/* T = no space alloced since last reset */
 	bool		allowInCritSection; /* allow palloc in critical section */
+	int64		mem_allocated;	/* track memory allocated for this context */
 	const MemoryContextMethods *methods;	/* virtual function table */
 	MemoryContext parent;		/* NULL if no parent (toplevel context) */
 	MemoryContext firstchild;	/* head of linked list of children */