Problem was that wsrep was disconnected and new slave
threads tried to connect to cluster but failed as
we were disconnected state.
Allow changing wsrep_slave_threads only when wsrep is enabled
and we are connected to a cluster. In other cases report
error and issue a warning.
There were multiple problems here
* wsrep_trx_fragment_size should not be set when wsrep is disabled or provider is not loaded
* wsrep_trx_fragment_unit should not be set when wsrep is disabled or provider is not loaded
* wsrep_debug has no effect if wsrep is disabled or provider is not loaded
* wsrep_start_position should not be set when wsrep is disabled or provider is not loaded any other value than default
* wsrep_start_position should be changed only when we are joiner or initialized
* wsrep_start_position should be allowed to set only a value that exits, thus
we need to add error handling to wsrep_sst_complete
