enable ssl + ssl_verify_server_cert in the internal client too
* fix replication tests to disable master_ssl_verify_server_cert
because accounts are passwordless - except rpl.rpl_ssl1
* fix federated/federatedx/connect to disable SSL_VERIFY_SERVER_CERT
because they cannot configure an ssl connection
* fix spider to disable ssl_verify_server_cert, if configuration
says so, as spider _can_ configure an ssl connection
* memory leak in embedded test-connect
Returned accidentally removed undefinition of MYSQL_SERVER in net_serv.cc inside embedded server
(embedded server uses real_net_read/write only as a client)
Prevented attempt to clean up embedded server if it was not initialized
