remove old deprecation helpers that were not used anywhere.
create new deprecation helpers and enforce their usage
this also removes inconsistencies in reporting deprecation:
sometimes it was ER_WARN_DEPRECATED_SYNTAX (1287),
sometimes ER_WARN_DEPRECATED_SYNTAX_NO_REPLACEMENT (1681),
sometimes a warning, sometimes a note.
it should always be
* ER_WARN_DEPRECATED_SYNTAX
* a warning (because it's something actionable, not purely informational)
