several fixes to make tests pass in embedded-server mode

libmysqld/lib_sql.cc:
  check for bootstrap added
mysql-test/include/federated.inc:
  disabled in embedded
mysql-test/mysql-test-run.pl:
  we disable ssh in embedded server
mysql-test/r/bdb.result:
  part moved to bdb_notembedded as it uses binlog
mysql-test/r/flush_block_commit.result:
  part moved to flush_block_commit_notembedded
mysql-test/r/insert.result:
  part moved to insert_notembedded as delayed works differently in embedded server
mysql-test/r/insert_select.result:
  part moved to insert_notembedded as GRANTS usually disabled in embedded server
mysql-test/r/join.result:
  access rights hidden in result
mysql-test/t/backup.test:
  now available in embedded server
mysql-test/t/bdb.test:
  part moved to bdb_notembedded as it uses binlog
mysql-test/t/delayed.test:
  code trimmed
mysql-test/t/execution_constants.test:
  skipped in embedded-server mode
mysql-test/t/flush_block_commit.test:
  moved to flush_block_commit_notembedded
mysql-test/t/information_schema_db.test:
  skipped in embedded-server
mysql-test/t/innodb.test:
  directories replaced to be embedded-server compliant
mysql-test/t/insert.test:
  part moved to insert_notembedded
mysql-test/t/insert_select.test:
  part moved to insert_notembedded
mysql-test/t/join.test:
  access rights hidden
mysql-test/t/status.test:
  skipped in embedded server
mysql-test/t/trigger.test:
  directories replaced to be embedded-server compliant
sql/item_strfunc.cc:
  extra contexts not needed whan access checks disabled
sql/share/errmsg.txt:
  bigger paths reserved to prevent test's fails
mysql-test/r/bdb_notembedded.result:
  ***MISSING WEAVE***
mysql-test/r/flush_block_commit_notembedded.result:
  added
mysql-test/r/insert_notembedded.result:
  added
mysql-test/t/bdb_notembedded.test:
  ***MISSING WEAVE***
mysql-test/t/flush_block_commit_notembedded.test:
  added
mysql-test/t/insert_notembedded.test:
  added

libmysqld/lib_sql.cc

@@ -770,6 +770,8 @@ MYSQL_DATA *THD::alloc_new_dataset()
 
 static void write_eof_packet(THD *thd)
 {
+  if (!thd->mysql)            // bootstrap file handling
+    return;
   /*
     The following test should never be true, but it's better to do it
     because if 'is_fatal_error' is set the server is not going to execute