MDEV-23536 : Race condition between KILL and transaction commit

A race condition may occur between the execution of transaction commit,
and an execution of a KILL statement that would attempt to abort that
transaction.

MDEV-17092 worked around this race condition by modifying InnoDB code.
After that issue was closed, Sergey Vojtovich pointed out that this
race condition would better be fixed above the storage engine layer:

If you look carefully into the above, you can conclude that
thd->free_connection() can be called concurrently with
KILL/thd->awake(). Which is the bug. And it is partially fixed in
THD::~THD(), that is destructor waits for KILL completion:

Fix: Add necessary mutex operations to THD::free_connection()
and move WSREP specific code also there. This ensures that no
one is using THD while we do free_connection(). These mutexes
will also ensures that there can't be concurrent KILL/THD::awake().

innobase_kill_query
  We can now remove usage of trx_sys_mutex introduced on MDEV-17092.

trx_t::free()
  Poison trx->state and trx->mysql_thd

This patch is validated with an RQG run similar to the one that
reproduced MDEV-17092.

sql/sql_class.h

@@ -3194,7 +3194,7 @@ public:
   void update_all_stats();
   void update_stats(void);
   void change_user(void);
-  void cleanup(void);
+  void cleanup(bool have_mutex=false);
   void cleanup_after_query();
   void free_connection();
   void reset_for_reuse();